第四次產檢
第22週
已經過咗一半啦
今次唔知點解
成日都抽筋
上次騯大B都係抽兩三次
所以今次騯細B
有D擔心
所以問咗醫生好多問題
其實細B一齊正常
very good
she is a good baby
下一個月after二十四週就要驗血糖
今次老死都空肚去驗
2016年7月15日星期五
2016年6月3日星期五
2016年6月1日星期三
Why does my toddler sometimes reject my affection?
話說琴日揍返瑤瑤返屋企
之後同佢玩
開頭都好哋哋
但當我唔比我啲手機比佢
佢開始發皮氣
之後中拍我塊面
我打佢一吓
佢拍返我
點解佢依排咁惡
佢一邊扭,我一邊想
係唔係我唔比佢做唔仲意佢攪打佢手仔
佢就覺得唔仲意就可以打返人呢?
我無再打佢手仔
之後我去廚房煮飯
佢要開櫃門
我只係no佢話唔比
佢就踧手但都有發脾氣
之後我同佢玩錫錫佢
佢走開唔要我抱抱
過咗一排食完飯
同佢玩一陣攬攬佢之後
就OK啦
教BB真真真係一個大大大學問
今朝見到依段
真係要學習學習
之後同佢玩
開頭都好哋哋
但當我唔比我啲手機比佢
佢開始發皮氣
之後中拍我塊面
我打佢一吓
佢拍返我
點解佢依排咁惡
佢一邊扭,我一邊想
係唔係我唔比佢做唔仲意佢攪打佢手仔
佢就覺得唔仲意就可以打返人呢?
我無再打佢手仔
之後我去廚房煮飯
佢要開櫃門
我只係no佢話唔比
佢就踧手但都有發脾氣
之後我同佢玩錫錫佢
佢走開唔要我抱抱
過咗一排食完飯
同佢玩一陣攬攬佢之後
就OK啦
教BB真真真係一個大大大學問
今朝見到依段
真係要學習學習
Susanne Ayers Denham
developmental psychologist
Toddlers' moods can change as quickly — and with as little warning — as the weather. There are about a million reasons why your child might be pushing you away (or suddenly seem desperate for a snuggle). While the best advice is usually just to wait it out like a thunderstorm, here's a list of some of the more common reasons your toddler might be acting standoffish and how to respond:
He's had a bad day.
Just like grown-ups, kids have days when all they want to do is crawl under a rock and stay there. While the issues may be less complex than those adults face, disappointment and frustration can bring out the loner in a toddler. Maybe he didn't get a turn on the swing at the park or he got reprimanded at daycare. Either way, he doesn't want your hugs or cuddles to make him feel better.
How to respond: Respect his desire for distance but let him know that you're there if he wants your help. He may just have to lick his wounds on his own and will seek you out after he's done pouting.
She's recovering from a tantrum.
If she pushes you away right after you've disciplined her with a time-out or by taking away something she wanted, it's common sense: Her feelings have been hurt and she wants you to know it. Or maybe she's just tired — screaming and collapsing on the floor in misery can take a lot out of a person.
How to respond: First, accept that she's entitled to feel disappointed. Think about how you feel after a fight with your spouse or best friend — you probably need some time before you're ready to make up. Your toddler is no different.
Before you give your toddler space, show that you understand her feelings: "You don't want to talk to Mama because you're mad that she didn't let you run in the parking lot, right?" Let her know that you'll be there for her when she feels like a hug. Assure her that no matter what, you still love her — even if she broke the rules.
He's upset with you and doesn't know how to say it.
Toddlers' emotional lives are complex — they can express their feelings but can't yet explain them. Maybe you've been away on a business trip and he missed you but is angry that you were gone. Or perhaps he's upset that you've spent most of the day with your new baby. Whatever the situation may be, his feelings overwhelm him but he doesn't know how to let you know what's going on.
How to respond: If you suspect that there's an underlying reason for your child's rejection, talk to him. Ask him questions in a gentle manner — "Are you feeling like I don't spend enough time with you?" — and accept his responses without judgment.
It may hurt to hear that he's angry or upset with you (he may say, "Mean mommy," for instance), but remember that his feelings aren't permanent. By talking to you, he's trying to make sense of them.
She's going through an "independent" phase.
At age 1 your child may have seemed glued to your lap. As she gets older, she may refuse to even let you near her block tower. This could be because she needs you less, because she's testing you to see if you'll be steadfast in your love if she tries pushing you away, or simply because she's going through a busy stage in which her focus is elsewhere (and you're just interrupting her learning time with your requests for kisses).
How to respond: Try not to take her rebuffs too seriously. She still loves you but may not need your hugs and kisses as much right now. If it seems like you're bothering her when she's hard at work, save your hugs and kisses for bedtime or when she's not so occupied. As long as she's sure you adore her, she'll know where to find you when she's in a cuddly mood.
He's in a Daddy-favoring (or Mommy-favoring) phase.
He's acting up with you but is just fine with your partner — or vice versa.
How to respond: It's normal for kids to go through phases of clinginess or rejection with each parent, especially if one of you is working outside the home full-time. But if you think your child's change in attitude means something more significant, look at your and your partner's behavior. Do either of you somehow encourage this favoritism?
It could be that without realizing it, you're acting annoyed every time your partner comes home or you're suddenly lavishing your little one with affection. Does your partner expect your child to run to him with open arms, when it's really more your toddler's style to warm up slowly?
She may not be the touchy-feely type.
Even if you're very affectionate, your child is her own person and may not have inherited this trait.
How to respond: If your toddler seems distant, you may have to simply accept her for who she is. Instead of acting hurt, let your child lead the way when it comes to affection. Chances are that even if she has a more self-reliant temperament, she'll still need a hug or a kiss once in a while — when she's upset or scared, for instance.
Try to read her reactions, and if you think she's open to it, offer your affection. She'll take you up on it when she's ready.
He isn't feeling well.
Your normally cuddly toddler is suddenly impatient and testy, pushing you away when you expect him to embrace you.
How to respond: If it's a really striking shift, consider a check-up at the pediatrician's office. It could be a physical issue, such as a newly developed allergy or some other illness.
She's feeling real anger or distress — and acting out inappropriately.
Some toddlers occasionally cross the line, and their rejection becomes physically violent (pushing, hitting, or biting, for example).
How to respond: Even if it isn't especially painful, it's important to take a very definite stand against any sort of violent outburst. For a toddler, this means setting a clear and simple consequence: "No. Mommy doesn't like that. If you do that, I'll have to put you down / take you home / take it away." Then make sure to follow through.
He's had a bad day.
Just like grown-ups, kids have days when all they want to do is crawl under a rock and stay there. While the issues may be less complex than those adults face, disappointment and frustration can bring out the loner in a toddler. Maybe he didn't get a turn on the swing at the park or he got reprimanded at daycare. Either way, he doesn't want your hugs or cuddles to make him feel better.
How to respond: Respect his desire for distance but let him know that you're there if he wants your help. He may just have to lick his wounds on his own and will seek you out after he's done pouting.
She's recovering from a tantrum.
If she pushes you away right after you've disciplined her with a time-out or by taking away something she wanted, it's common sense: Her feelings have been hurt and she wants you to know it. Or maybe she's just tired — screaming and collapsing on the floor in misery can take a lot out of a person.
How to respond: First, accept that she's entitled to feel disappointed. Think about how you feel after a fight with your spouse or best friend — you probably need some time before you're ready to make up. Your toddler is no different.
Before you give your toddler space, show that you understand her feelings: "You don't want to talk to Mama because you're mad that she didn't let you run in the parking lot, right?" Let her know that you'll be there for her when she feels like a hug. Assure her that no matter what, you still love her — even if she broke the rules.
He's upset with you and doesn't know how to say it.
Toddlers' emotional lives are complex — they can express their feelings but can't yet explain them. Maybe you've been away on a business trip and he missed you but is angry that you were gone. Or perhaps he's upset that you've spent most of the day with your new baby. Whatever the situation may be, his feelings overwhelm him but he doesn't know how to let you know what's going on.
How to respond: If you suspect that there's an underlying reason for your child's rejection, talk to him. Ask him questions in a gentle manner — "Are you feeling like I don't spend enough time with you?" — and accept his responses without judgment.
It may hurt to hear that he's angry or upset with you (he may say, "Mean mommy," for instance), but remember that his feelings aren't permanent. By talking to you, he's trying to make sense of them.
She's going through an "independent" phase.
At age 1 your child may have seemed glued to your lap. As she gets older, she may refuse to even let you near her block tower. This could be because she needs you less, because she's testing you to see if you'll be steadfast in your love if she tries pushing you away, or simply because she's going through a busy stage in which her focus is elsewhere (and you're just interrupting her learning time with your requests for kisses).
How to respond: Try not to take her rebuffs too seriously. She still loves you but may not need your hugs and kisses as much right now. If it seems like you're bothering her when she's hard at work, save your hugs and kisses for bedtime or when she's not so occupied. As long as she's sure you adore her, she'll know where to find you when she's in a cuddly mood.
He's in a Daddy-favoring (or Mommy-favoring) phase.
He's acting up with you but is just fine with your partner — or vice versa.
How to respond: It's normal for kids to go through phases of clinginess or rejection with each parent, especially if one of you is working outside the home full-time. But if you think your child's change in attitude means something more significant, look at your and your partner's behavior. Do either of you somehow encourage this favoritism?
It could be that without realizing it, you're acting annoyed every time your partner comes home or you're suddenly lavishing your little one with affection. Does your partner expect your child to run to him with open arms, when it's really more your toddler's style to warm up slowly?
She may not be the touchy-feely type.
Even if you're very affectionate, your child is her own person and may not have inherited this trait.
How to respond: If your toddler seems distant, you may have to simply accept her for who she is. Instead of acting hurt, let your child lead the way when it comes to affection. Chances are that even if she has a more self-reliant temperament, she'll still need a hug or a kiss once in a while — when she's upset or scared, for instance.
Try to read her reactions, and if you think she's open to it, offer your affection. She'll take you up on it when she's ready.
He isn't feeling well.
Your normally cuddly toddler is suddenly impatient and testy, pushing you away when you expect him to embrace you.
How to respond: If it's a really striking shift, consider a check-up at the pediatrician's office. It could be a physical issue, such as a newly developed allergy or some other illness.
She's feeling real anger or distress — and acting out inappropriately.
Some toddlers occasionally cross the line, and their rejection becomes physically violent (pushing, hitting, or biting, for example).
How to respond: Even if it isn't especially painful, it's important to take a very definite stand against any sort of violent outburst. For a toddler, this means setting a clear and simple consequence: "No. Mommy doesn't like that. If you do that, I'll have to put you down / take you home / take it away." Then make sure to follow through.
2016年5月17日星期二
2016年5月13日星期五
1 year old well check
啱啱過咗生日
就要去睇醫生啦
1歲大啲body check
今次仲要一次過打五支針
大人都頂唔順啦
真係心痛死我
瑤瑤真係叻叻豬
打嗰陣喊咗一陣
婆婆同佢玩吓又笑返晒
醫生都話佢叻
慘慘豬今日係bad day!
打完五支針
又要抽兩支血
之後就喊到收唔到聲
希望BB依幾日唔好發燒啦
擔心死爸爸媽媽
2016年4月29日星期五
天賜!
上一年
有第一個B....攪一大輪
由於總總關係
都啉住生一個
有囡萬事足
估都估唔到
又中獎...仲咁快咁易
雖然係unexpected呀
但都是天意,天賜
The gift of God
我哋當場歡欣and Welcome
其實開始check到啲頭幾日
都有D擔心
因為瑤瑤連一歲都無
細B出世時,瑤瑤頂多歲半
老爺一個人點揍兩個B呀
但船到橋頭自然直
到時先算
我要細B好似姐姐一樣係happy baby
話說三月中
我返咗香港, 覺得作嘔作悶
一check先知有咗
依次回港係我覺得最最最辛苦啲一次
雖然得兩個星期
但都嚪耐
so tired with 2 babies in travel myself!!!
有第一個B....攪一大輪
由於總總關係
都啉住生一個
有囡萬事足
估都估唔到
又中獎...仲咁快咁易
雖然係unexpected呀
但都是天意,天賜
The gift of God
我哋當場歡欣and Welcome
其實開始check到啲頭幾日
都有D擔心
因為瑤瑤連一歲都無
細B出世時,瑤瑤頂多歲半
老爺一個人點揍兩個B呀
但船到橋頭自然直
到時先算
我要細B好似姐姐一樣係happy baby
話說三月中
我返咗香港, 覺得作嘔作悶
一check先知有咗
依次回港係我覺得最最最辛苦啲一次
雖然得兩個星期
但都嚪耐
so tired with 2 babies in travel myself!!!
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